Private Coaching

One-on-one coaching

Understand your story. Intentionally shape what’s next.

Every experience leaves its mark. Some strengthen us. Others leave us questioning who we are, how we got here, or where we go next.

The challenge isn’t that we’ve been shaped. The challenge is believing we have to stay that way.

Awareness creates choice. When we understand how we’ve been shaped, we gain the freedom to shape what comes next.

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Private coaching is available by application only. Sessions are held by video.

How it works

Three steps. No pressure at any of them.

Nobody commits to anything from a button. You apply, we talk, and then we decide together whether the work makes sense.

  1. Apply

    A short application. It asks what brought you here, what you have already tried, and what you want to be different. Most people find the questions useful on their own.

  2. Talk

    A discovery call, at no cost. We meet, you tell me what you are working through, and we look at whether I am the right person for it. Sometimes the answer is no. I will tell you.

  3. Work

    If we both say yes, we begin. Twelve sessions across twenty weeks, built around your story rather than a curriculum.

What the engagement looks like

We meet by video, so where you live does not decide whether we work together. We meet weekly for the first month to build the frame and find the pattern. After that we move to every other week, because the work happens in your life, not in the call. You need room for it to land.

Format
Video, wherever you are
Sessions
Twelve, one hour each
Duration
Twenty weeks
Cadence
Weekly for four, then biweekly
Investment
$2,000

If any of this sounds like what you have been looking for, start with the application. We can figure out the rest on the call.

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Who this is for

When the ground moves, everything built on it moves too.

Some events do not just change your circumstances. They change the story you have been telling about who you are. The details differ. The disruption is the same.

  • A DNA surprise
  • Divorce
  • The death of someone central
  • Losing work that defined you
  • The long aftermath of trauma
  • A season you cannot name yet

This work fits if

  • Something happened, and you are no longer sure who you are on the other side of it.
  • You want to understand how you got here, not just feel better about it.
  • You are willing to look at your own patterns, including the ones that are uncomfortable.
  • You want someone who will tell you the truth rather than agree with you.
  • You are ready to do something, even if you do not know what yet.

This work does not fit if

  • You are in acute crisis. That calls for a therapist or a physician, not a coach. I will help you find one.
  • You want advice you can take or leave rather than work you have to do.
  • You want the facts of your story solved rather than lived with. Some questions do not have answers.
  • You want company in staying where you are. I understand the pull of that. It is not what this is.

One thing worth saying plainly.

Being told to move on before you have been heard is its own injury. What happened to you was real. What you feel about it is real. Part of my job is to say that, and to mean it.

The other part is harder. We honor what happened without letting it become the whole story. We hold both at once, because that is where the movement actually is. Not in choosing between them.

How the work works

There is a mechanism under all of it.

People assume their reactions are just who they are. They are not. They are the end of a chain that started somewhere, and every link in it can be found.

  1. First, experience

    Something happens to you. You do not choose it, and you do not get to decide how much it counts. It goes in either way.

  2. Then, perception

    The experience teaches you something about how the world works and where you stand in it. This part happens without your permission. Most of it was set before you could evaluate any of it.

  3. Then, choice

    You act out of what you perceive. It does not feel like choosing. It feels like being yourself. That is exactly why it holds.

The loop runs whether you are watching it or not.

That is the whole problem. Not that you were shaped, everyone was. The problem is that the shaping runs underneath, and what it produces arrives feeling like your personality rather than like a result.

So you keep making the same choice and calling it your nature. You keep hitting the same wall and calling it your luck.

Awareness creates choice. Not because seeing the pattern dissolves it, it does not. Because a pattern you can see is a pattern you can decide about. That decision is the entire difference between a life that happens to you and one you have a hand in.

What that looks like in the room

Twelve conversations, working the chain backward until you can see it running in real time.

  • We start where you are stuck, because the stuck place is where the pattern is easiest to catch.
  • We trace it back. What did you learn, and when, and from what. Not to assign blame. To find the link.
  • We look at what that perception has been costing you, in the places you have not connected to it yet.
  • We test it. Perceptions built at seven rarely survive being examined at forty.
  • We practice the choice you could not see before. In small things first. That is where it holds.

You have read this far for a reason.

Something brought you to this page. It is still there. The application takes about fifteen minutes, and the call after it costs you nothing but the conversation.

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Every engagement begins with a conversation.